Beware of the Nettie Heart
Finding someone to spend the rest of your life with should be a great adventure. What happens when the romantic adventure turns into something dangerous? Let’s take a moment to check our
hearts. Are they healthy? Place your hand on your chest; take a deep breath can you feel the sensation of your heart beat. This feeling comes from a muscle in our chest that is responsible for the function of every part of our body. A healthy heart works constantly everyday all day to pump blood and oxygen to vital parts of the body to insure proper function of every organ and limbs.
Now what about our spiritual heart? When looking for a mate wouldn’t we need a healthy spiritual heart as well? What happens if we meet someone whose spiritual heart is unhealthy? Would we recognize it? What are some ways we can check our spiritual hearts?
Scripture mentions the “HEART” over one thousand times making it the most common anthropological term in scripture. It symbolizes a person’s center for both physical and emotional-intellectual-moral activities. The heart has been used to house the things that are inaccessible. While at the same time the heart has been described to house the things that are hidden that only God can see. Jesus says that the heart’s secrets are betrayed by the mouth, even as the tree’s fruit discloses its nature (Matt 12:33-34). King Solomon says that “A wise man’s heart guilds his mouth” Proverbs 16:23.
I once heard it said that “A beautiful woman delights the eye; a wise woman, the understanding; a pure one, the soul. What about the Nettie women? King Solomon says, in Ecclesiastes 7:26, “And I find more bitter than death the woman, whose heart is snares and nets, and her hands as bands: whoso pleaseth God shall escape from her; but the sinner shall be taken by her.” The NIV says, “I find more bitter than death the woman who is a snare, whose heart is a trap and whose hands are chains. The man who pleases God will escape her, but the sinner she will ensnare.”
How does ones’ heart become a trap? What would make a person be as such that one would describe their heart as a net? A net catches what it intends to catch because the subject does not see the net. Once the subject is caught up in the net it is almost impossible to escape. If you stay in bitterness long enough it could affect your heart. Let’s imagine, if you will, that bitterness is like poison ivy. So if you stepped in bitterness your feet would be covered in bitterness and if that bitterness crawled up the legs and wrapped itself around the torso it could very well eventually enclose the heart. This scripture could encompass both genders. A man could have a Nettie heart as well.
Have you ever known someone who wants more of you then you are willing to give? Or you are in a relationship with someone who no matter what you offer to the relationship it is never enough? Do you know someone who has so much drama in their life; they want you to belong to their drama. Is there someone in your life who just wants to own you and what you do and they won’t let you go? Ladies, do you have a friend who is just not satisfied with just your friendship; she wants you to be all tangled up with her and her mess? However, your spirit encourages you to back up, put some distance between you and this person. Well, listen to that small voice inside of you. Stalkers are not new, for whatever reason they want to entrap your heart and chain your hands. Some of these people are wounded by past relationships and living in bitterness, which gives them delusional thinking. But there is hope. Ecclesiastes 7: 26 says that whoso pleaseth God shall escape from her.
Psalms 25:11-15 says, “For thy name's sake, O Lord, pardon mine iniquity; for it is great. What man is he that feareth the Lord? him shall he teach in the way that he shall choose. His soul shall
dwell at ease; and his seed shall inherit the earth. The secret of the Lord is with them that fear him; and he will shew them his covenant. Mine eyes are ever toward the Lord; for he shall pluck my feet out of the net.” If we keep our eyes toward the Lord, He will free us from any entrapment that the enemy seeks to design. However, there is a part we must play. If your red flag pops up when talking and walking with these Nettie hearts, heed the warnings. Dating is a beautiful part of adulthood. Making a friend is a wonderful process. Proverbs tells us that there is a friend that will stick closer to you than a brother, which is a beautiful thing; nevertheless we must be prudent in our intersections, wise with our choices and have godly certainties. If, by chance, we slip up, remember we have a Heavenly Father who knows everyone’s motives and intentions and He will pluck our feet out of the net if we keep our eyes on Him!
See you at the next intersection☺